Tis the season to out the deadbeats. Listen, I have never been one to suffer fools, I am not complaining. I have always said you must shout when uncomfortable. There is no trophy for suffering in silence, they will keep pressing you and when you die, they will say you enjoyed it. There are just better ways to do it so you do not end up destroying the children you were trying to fight for.
A couple of things stood out for me in these 'celebville' shenanigans.
The most interesting one was Christians condemning the one who fathered a child with his cousin. To be fair, marrying cousins is not really a sin in the Bible. Numbers 36:11, ‘Zelophehad's daughters, Mahlah, Tirzah, Hoglah, Milcah and Noah, married their cousins on their father's side to obey the Lord's command.’
Maybe the Lord commanded him. I had a problem with it because it is unAfrican. But the baby is here and we cannot ask the mother to swallow her.
As if fathering his niece was not enough, he paraded his madam as he tried to convince everyone and himself, I am sure, that he was not the baby daddy. Now, this is my thinking about that whole scenario.
As a woman, a married woman, a woman who really wants her marriage to work, I get it. I feel for that woman. But you need to draw the line somewhere. A man will say anything to keep from getting caught. You just need to be sensitive enough not to be one of the monkeys in that circus he is running as he tries to buy more lives.
Listen to your sixth sense, women. You will always know your man’s children. It is not the easiest thing to accept with all the emotional turmoil, but you know. You cannot wish it away. Just accept. It is a child. You do not have to like the mother, no one is asking you to play blended families. Just do not deny a child basic needs because you want everyone to think your husband is Jesus’ brother.
Granted there are women who try to get men like that, but if you sober up and step back, you will know the difference. Then do the right thing. Had you just stepped in and did the right thing, this would not have been 'tea'. You know your husband, you need to accept who he is not the character he plays.
Same goes for the other one who sent her fellow woman Sh9,000 to look after two children owada. In Nairobi. Listen, if the man is channelling funds through you for his kids, make sure kids are looked after equally. If it is your own money, then give IF you want, otherwise that is not your problem.
Now they have subjected two more children to DNA tests. The same bugger who said he wanted peace and privacy. Now that he has to pay fees, he needs to be sure they are his kids. When the only expectation was Oreos, they were all his children that he provided for equally.
People really play with children. I thought we had bodies that are supposed to speak for and fight for children?
Even if tests had shown one or more may not belong to the man, the fact that he had been in their lives from early stages should count for something. He is the adult who decided to be in a child's life as a father. The child had no control. He is obligated to carry out responsibilities pertaining to the role of a father. The law should insist on this. Maybe that way, adults would be careful before ruining children’s lives.
As I said, I'm all for bringing deadbeats to book. In this day of the internet though, this thing that does not forget, I just wonder what the repercussions would be for some of these kids when they are older. Yes, I know hunger now is more of a threat to the child’s life, but try the children’s court. Especially if he has a job. It works. If he does not have a job, no point in fighting now (stop ducking jobless men) and wait for him to get one, I think some of these things can be backdated.