How to handle platonic relationships when married

A platonic relationship is a close friendship that does not involve romance or sex but may appear that way to others, especially to your spouse.

Couples can have platonic friendships with co-workers, schoolmates, gym friends, cousins and neighbours, but they can negatively affect their marriage and erode trust.

But for some, their marriages have thrived even as they maintained platonic relationships.

In an interview, Ruth (not her real name), said she set boundaries with her closest friends from the word go in a bid to save her marriage.

"My acquaintances are aware I am married and we draw a line," she says.

"For instance, there are hours I cannot receive calls from them and I never discuss my sex life. We hang out at certain times and they can approach me and maybe give me a hug but that's all."

Joshua (not his real name) is married and has a couple of platonic relationships. He said communication is key in both platonic relationships and in marriage.

"As the person in the marriage, it is your duty to define the boundaries by communicating exactly what you are comfortable with," he said.

 "Do unto others what you would like to be done to yourself," he adds.

The duo insisted on setting boundaries with friends, being honest with their spouse and having open communication to ensure this works.

Emily Guarnotta, a clinical psychologist, told The Insider, an American publication, that the potential boundaries in platonic relationships may include physical intimacy, such as embraces.

Guarnotta said boundaries to consider in a platonic relationship include consistent respect for each other and avoiding topics of disagreement or discomfort.

When comes to marriage, these platonic relationships can cause problems because they are interpreted as romantic and a spouse feels threatened. They can put unions in jeopardy.